- Oct 27, 2017
With our second, who really was a worse sleeper, we both felt it was more manageable.I have a hard time imagining much worse. Ours was so fucking colicky the first few months. Like obviously very worth it, but doing that with a toddler sounds like a fucking horror story. We were stuck in the house and basically pacing back and forth for so long because like 75% of his awake time was hysterical crying.
And I guess I think having any child after the first will be treated differently. We're able to dote on our first to a ridiculous degree that we just could not if we had even another biological baby. First borns will always be a bit different in that regard. Obviously as they get older things level off but I would think by that time an adopted child would feel very much like my child. I dunno though.
Firstly you know what you’re in for. Also, with the first we became reclusive and dwelled on the misery because we didn’t have anything else to do. We paced for hours and rocked and everything. With the second we were forced to still go out and entertain a 2yo who didn’t want to be cooped up. That really helped us just get on with things, and the feeling of day-to-day survival really wasn’t there like it was the first time round.