Hmm. My hair's been this way as long as I can remember, but I've also been managing it the same way as long as I can remember. I'll give this a shot. Thanks!
And to follow on if you can't wait to air dry then pat or wrap with a microfiber towel or old t-shirt and/or use a diffuser on a hair dryer. Don't rub dry with a regular towel.You can also do this at night, before bed, and have her sleep on a satin pillowcase, which will reduce friction and allow the hair to dry overnight and require only minimal styling and maybe some wetting with a spray bottle the next morning.
Also, use a wide-toothed comb, specifically, for combing and straightening the wet hair. Don't use a brush.
Wrap my hair immediately after a shower with a regular towel. I rarely comb it unfortunately. I do have a leave in conditioner I like that helps but only for like half the day. I do shower in the morning almost exclusively but I've been thinking of changing it up.Use a broad hair comb made out of wood.
How do you dry your hair after showering? Try to wrap your whole hair in a towel. Comb it into your desired style after showering and wrap it up. Try to do it for 3-5 hours (overnight for best results) and your hair will be frizz free for a few days. Getting it wet will destroy the effect though so try to stay out of rain and avoid sweaty workouts. I know it sounds weird but this totally eliminates frizz, your hair will look much better.
I heard a satin cloth works better than a towel but I never tried it.
We use one of those Turbie Twist things since she can usually manage that herself and a diffuser when it's too cold out to air dry. Honestly the main reason I'm looking for info is so she isn't in pain when we try to comb her hair. My wife had similar hair at her age and her folks cut it short to get over it. My kid made it pretty clear she wanted long hair so we're trying to get it across that long hair = more care needed. Doing things right should hopefully be a good teaching moment for all of us.
I could have written this. I have a super-full scalp of insanely curly, unruly, high-maintenance hair and it f*cking sucks. Although I straighten after a wash most times cuz reasons you cited.I have long wavy/lightly curled hair and I hate it. It's an absolute nightmare to maintain. Every fucking thing makes it into a disaster. Static makes it friz up. Humidity makes it friz up. Heat damages it. Cold dries it out. Everything dries it out. Sleeping tangles it up, even with a satin pillowcase. The bangs are impossible to figure out. The ends are always tangling and splitting.
It takes hours of work to get it looking nice, four or five different products just to get it looking half-decent, and then within twelve hours it becomes a frizzy tangled stringy dried-out bird's nest again. I'm sick of it. I'm this close to straightening it and being done with it, but people always say I'm so lucky to have natural curls and waves and I feel like I'd be throwing that away.
Anyway, if anybody has similar issues let me know how you've handled it or what products and methods you tried. And yes, I know about the Curly Girl Method, that's the only thing that keeps my hair looking "okay" for up to 24 hours instead of like a complete disaster.